Ouch... that hurt.


Have you busted your butt, and gone outside your comfort zone to do something you truly believed in, only to be let down by people in your circle who you thought had your back? 

I'm sure speakin' to the choir.  Most of you are in the dance field.... and let's be real, shall we? You don't just jump into the dance world without knowing that the road will be tough, bumpy, and scary world.  Plus the scenery overall is pretty meh.  I mean, dance studios don't vary that much... 

(That's why the costumes are so sparkly y'all.)  

But I do have to share something that happened recently.  This past summer I have been reading, listening, learning, growing and building my businesses. It's been hard.  It's been awesome.  It's also been really lonely, and daunting and at times. At times feeling like nothing is working in the day to day.  

SO, last December, two weeks before Christmas, I emptied my savings account to hire a coach. With her guidance, I launched my curriculum into the online world.  I was able to launch my BoogieFit Curriculum to studios all over the world with the press of a button.  Crazy! It was super exciting, and scary. 

And now, 9 months later, I learned this past week that my awesome consultant left my email list. 


My email list. 

Who cares? right? 

You might leave me right now. 

(please don't)

I've had friends leave my list. 

Close friends. 

So why do I care, about my consultant? 


Because.  This is hard. It's still work and it still takes a ton of effort.  It takes consistency, and guts, accountability... (which comes from you, so thank you) and sometimes it's very lonely.  And I would think that my consultant would not only understand, but be supportive and encouraging.  Even if it's just staying on my list. 

So when someone that I thought would be my biggest cheerleader leaves my list, what do I do?

I whined a bit. 

and then? 




I emailed her. 

Boom!  Yup.  That's right. 

I was having a stupid pity party about it, and feeling like I sucked and wanted to know what I could do to make her experience better. 

And what did she say? 

This blew me away.  

As a business owner, entrepreneur, studio owner, dance teacher, and mama, I was so appreciative that the time was taken to address my sniveling water works.  It wasn't that she found my emails useless, or rambling, or that my content didn't have value. 

It's worse... and yet, I totally get it.  You see, we are always trying to be better.  To learn from others. To grow and develop that little seed that was planted - perhaps years ago- into great, amazing, inspiring fruit. 

Sometimes... with all that reading, and listening, and watching great content, your focus or goals get pulled off course.  And guess what. You end up spinning your wheels.  You realize your business, your great idea, your huge goals aren't being met because you keep running from one shiny object to the next.  And this is exactly what my business consultant told me.  In fact, it was because of my blog, that she decided to start her own video email to her members. 

huh. :) 

And y'all, this is the gem of her response to me, and quite frankly, I've been hit by it from all areas in my life these past couple weeks.  Go back to what you wanted to do, or were good at and STAY THE COURSE.  Do the daily activity you need to do to get yourself out in front of the pack.  "It's the day to day work...


and over, 

and OVER."

And guess what? It's true y'all.  I'm seeing the beautiful fruits of my labor.  My numbers are up over 25% this year.  Consistency in the day to day. Every. Day.

So, listen to what's in your heart.  Trust it.  Go for it.  And know that you will have obstacles... and unicorns aren't real.  Everyone who has made it big, just failed and picked themselves one more time.

With Grit and Admiration.   

And because I truly am thankful for all of you... a little gift. 

Melissa - Creator of Boogie Fit Curriculum











Molly Ashwood Sep 21, 2018 12:55pm

I just wanted to throw a word of encouragement your way! You're doing a great job juggling everything in your life. You're tough and you're an inspiration. Way to go!

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Thank you so much Molly.  Your "word of encouragement" means the world.  I so appreciate it, and glad you find this journey inspiration....as crazy and bumpy as it feels at times :) 

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Mechelle Nickolaus Sep 21, 2018 01:31pm

Thanks for sharing!  I don’t always make time to read your blog but when I do I always love your words of wisdom!  

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Thank you Mechelle... it means a lot that you took the time to read in this noisy world.  Not really "new wisdom"... but sometimes its the timing.  Happy Friday!

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Thanks Melissa - for so eloquently and vulnerably pouring it out there. I look back a decade to where I emailed clients every single day - falling asleep with my computer on my lap (well, that part not so healthy) - and I enjoyed a booming business! The irony was that I was too busy doing the work to truly enjoy it. All these years later and I’m caught in the safety of a 10-6 while my own business suffers - struggling to even email one client per week. Back to the basics. Just connect. It is in the day to day that makes the difference. All about cultivation: planting, watering, weeding, nourishing, germinating, watering, sprouting, watering, growing, flourishing, budding, producing fruit, then dying to spread more fruit! All within the warmth of the sun and the leading of the Son. Love ya!!

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Ooooh, I love how you worded this.  Yes.  For me it's really putting the blinders on, but not closed.  Relationships... everywhere we go.  Online and offline.  Thank you for sharing your heart Andrea, and taking the time to comment.  

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